Four years ago on this day, I woke up to find myself a widow. Four years ago on this day, my life careened into uncharted waters. Four years ago on this day, I stepped out of one life and into another. I lost quite a bit on that day, and in the days, months and years to follow: first my sanity, then my ability to think, work, and perform simple tasks, and now, still, any tolerance for intolerance, unkindness, and drama (figurative and literal — most Hollywood entertainment is